No matter what you celebrate – Christmas, Hanukkah, Festivus, or something else – enjoy this holiday season. This blogger is going to get some much-needed rest and relaxation through the end of the year and will pick up writing again in 2015.
This is a crazy season with, traditionally, a lot of expenses and obligations, but it doesn’t have to be this way. Here are some ideas to promote a happier, simpler holiday without breaking the bank or running around like mad.
Seven Ideas for a Simpler Holiday
- Visit family or friends – Go see the people you really care about. Not the ones you feel obligated to see, but the people you truly miss and enjoy. Don’t plan any specific activities, just visit and let the mood of the day determine what to do.
- Read your kids a book – I just began Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone with my oldest daughter and we both love it. Dust off your favorite childhood read and share it.
- Drink a hot beverage by the fire – I’ve just begun to realize why so many cultures love hot tea. Tea, hot chocolate, and hot cider are just a few of the beverages that take a hectic day and make it tranquil. Snuggle up and enjoy!
- Work out – Get a jumpstart on the rest of the world’s resolutions. Exercise is a mood and energy booster. If you feel run down by your activities or hit a sugar low, a short run, swim, game of tennis, or other activity is a quick mood-enhancer.
- Breathe – In the middle of your most hectic holiday tradition, close your eyes and take five deep breaths. Reap the relaxation rewards.
- Re-gift a present – We all get things at Christmas that we don’t need. Find someone who does need it and brighten their day.
- Say No – Pick one thing on your calendar or to do list and just say no. It’s a fantastic habit to start and you can start it with one “No”.
This list of 90 clutter free gifts, written by Rachel Jonat (the Minimalist Mom) was sitting in my inbox today and I LOVE it. It is now bookmarked on my computer. The great thing about it is that these aren’t just ideas for the minimalists in your life, these are great ideas for anyone. From wine to movie tickets to an Amazon gift card you can use these for any occasion. Check it out!
I love getting Christmas cards in the mail, especially the ones with news from friends who I don’t talk to often. We’ve sent Christmas cards every year to a growing list of people in the six places we’ve lived since Nathan and I were married ten years ago. Last year, however, after we’d just sent a birth announcement for our second daughter, I decided that the trouble of sending physical cards to our entire list three months after we just sent something else wasn’t necessary.
Instead, I sent Christmas cards only to family and friends for whom we don’t have email addresses. For everyone else, I sent an email with a short note and our Christmas card attached.
I apologized for not sending a physical card, but used the baby as an excuse and called it an experiment. I figured my close friends would pull me aside and say something like, “Hey, you know, sending Christmas cards electronically is rude and you probably shouldn’t do that ever again.” Perhaps some people did think that, but no one told me.
Instead, I got responses; immediate responses from people who I hadn’t heard from in months or years. The e-Christmas card actually started a conversation! It was an invitation to catch up in a way that physical cards don’t allow. It was so great that we’ll be doing it again this year.
Reasons to Send (at least some) Email Christmas Cards
- Save money when you don’t have to buy stamps and envelopes or print your own cards.
- Save time (at least a little). You could blast out a big email to everyone at once, but I recommend sending individual notes, which are far more personal and elicit an actual response.
- It’s easy because you don’t have to check-in with people who moved asking for addresses.
- Reconnect immediately with friends and family.
- Get started. If you’ve never sent a Christmas Card before, emailing them offers an pretty low barrier to entry.
- No physical object for your recipients to display and clean-up later.
Sure, it’s not quite the same thrill as holding a real, physical letter in your hand, but what’s the point in sending a letter if you never hear anything back?
The debate rages on over whether to get a live christmas tree or an artificial one. From a minimalist perspective, an artificial tree is an unattractive option given the storage space needed to keep a tree you won’t use for 11 months a year.
What doesn’t surface often in debates are some very creative Christmas tree alternatives. Year-to-year, I don’t remember our individual Christmas trees at all. They blur together into one big Christmas tree memory. What I do remember is the year we decorated a broken chair and the years we had a Christmas Hibiscus, which fit perfectly into our tiny North Dakota apartment.
You don’t have to keep putting up a regular Christmas tree! Here are a few Christmas tree alternatives to make your holidays brighter and easier.
Christmas Tree Alternatives
- Living trees – Buy a smaller, potted Christmas tree and plant it in the spring. You’ll be able to enjoy your Christmas tree year-round without any environmental guilt.
- Rent a tree – If you live in California, you can rent a Christmas tree. It comes in a pot, you return it after Christmas, and it keeps growing and is rented again next year.
- Decorate a houseplant – Many people have rather large houseplants already and they make great temporary Christmas trees! For many years, we had a Christmas Hibiscus, which brought so much more (tropical) warmth into our lives than a traditional Christmas tree.
- Decorate the wall – You can create a beautiful, one-of-a-kind tree out of paper, lights, or even a chalkboard and chalk on your wall. Excess storage space is minimal and everyone will appreciate your unique spin on the Christmas tree.
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- Decorate something else – This is where you can get really creative and have some fun doing it. One year, our computer chair broke just before Christmas and, instead of hauling it off to the dump right away, we made it the centerpiece of our Christmas lives. It even gave us more space for boxes because we could stack them on top of the tree!
We clearly weren’t trying, but I laugh every time I think of this “tree”.
- Cut your own Christmas tree – Avoid the crowds at Home Depot and head out into nature with your family. There are many places to cut your own, live Christmas tree in the DC area and all over the US. Turn the experience into a memorable event complete with a stop for hot chocolate afterwards.
- Branch out – Select an interesting branch from your yard, pot it, and decorate it. It may not bring the traditional Christmas tree green indoors, but it can be a lovely reminder of what makes winter beautiful.
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- Don’t worry about a tree at all – We do a lot of things because they are tradition. Traditions can make things special, familiar and give you something to look forward to, but when a tradition starts to become stressful, it loses its fun. If shopping for, untangling lights, feeding, and disposing of a Christmas tree no longer inspires the Christmas spirit, stop doing it, and use the time to start a new tradition.
Minimalism for me is not the practice of giving up everything I own. Instead, it’s the practice of elevating the things that mean most to me and getting rid of the rest. By doing this – by consciously examining everything I have – I am constantly participating in an exercise in gratitude.
Most things we previously thought we needed don’t “spark joy”. This is how Marie Kondo, a celebrity organizer from Japan describes the thought process behind de-owning in her new book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. This is an extraordinary way to judge your items. Sometimes, you instantly know that something belongs in your life because it does spark joy and you are incredibly grateful for having it in your life. Those are the things you keep.
With my journey to minimalism as a backdrop, I’ve thought a lot about the true meaning of Thanksgiving and what gratitude can do to my life year-round. Gratitude seems to be the straightest path to happiness. David Steindl-Rast, a monk and scholar, describes the link in his 2013 TED Talk and also gives us a framework for living gratefully: “stop, look, go”. He says,
“Grateful people are joyful people, and joyful people, the more and more joyful people there are, the more and more we’ll have a joyful world.”
So, with that in mind, here is a list of nine things that I’m grateful for today. I bet you’re also grateful for at least one of these too.
- My kids are healthy. They’re not always happy or clean or acting perfectly, but they’re amazing and if I’m lucky I’ll get to spend a lot of time with them for years to come.
- My relationship with my parents is intact. More than intact, actually. Though they live 1000 miles away, but I see them often, we talk every week, and I know that they will be there when I need advice – any time.
- We live in DC. What an amazing city to be in the middle of! We have free museums, parks galore, we’re an hour from the mountains, and two hours from the beach. People enjoy visiting this city and you can meet practically anyone here. There may be terrible traffic, but it’s a really great place to live.
- I work on something I care about. Opower has a double bottom line. Yes, we need to make money to stay in business, but we also care deeply about saving energy, which leads to a cleaner, more livable planet for all of us.
- I can still hike. I’ve never been in any major car accidents, I’m healthy, I eat right, and I’m (relatively) young. If I want to get out into nature in a nearby park or climb a mountain or explore the woods in my backyard, I can still do that.
- Travel. There’s nothing more fun than planning a trip and taking it. I live for discovering new things, especially things that challenge my basic core beliefs. I feel lucky that in this day and age I can get almost anywhere in less than 24 hours. Not many humans in the history of the world can say that.
- Optimism. I’m grateful that I’m able to find the good in everything, naturally. I just need to be reminded sometimes to do that more often.
- Time. I’m thankful that I learned an important lesson about work in my 20’s: don’t work overtime, instead prioritize. It turns out that the more time off you take, the more productive you are at work and the better your performance appraisals are (if you work for a good company that values your achievements over face time).
- The fact that minimalism exists. Think about it. Minimalism is a solution to the ultimate first world problem. It’s crazy that having too much stuff is even a problem. That means that what we do have is adequate food, clothing, shelter, water and everything else that allows us to survive. I’ve never had to worry about that and I am so, so thankful and humbled by that fact.